Did you shelve love after marriage? Experts suggest that this
Valentine's Day, with some planning, time management and surprises,
couples can rekindle romance and brush away boredom from married life.
TV actor Pawan Shankar, married to Yukti for more than eight years,
feels that priorities change after having kids, but it's the
responsibility of the couples to keep the romance alive.
Shankar told IANS: "It often happens that after having kids a gap
comes in between husband and wife because priorities change. To revive
that love, efforts have to be made from both the sides."
He believes that women make more efforts, adding, "Ninety percent of
the women try to revive love in the marriage, while only ten percent men
make that effort. This is because men are not expressive. If there is a
synergy at the mental level, then marriage is a bliss."
His views seem to be similar to his new show "Kyaa Hua Tera Wada", a
story of a married couple with three children and how they try to revive
romance in their married life.
Financial issue and parental interference sometimes mar the romance
and divorce lawyer Shiksha Kushwaha feels it could be avoided if the
spouses spend some quality time together and be honest while accepting
the truth.
"Feeling of incompatibility, financial issues, parental interference
and extra-marital affairs are some of the prominent issues but all of
these can be avoided if the couple take care of a few things.
"Show genuine love and affection towards the other person. Pamper him
or her and spend more time together. Also, avoid ego, during fights
avoid calling names, and be genuine towards each other," Kushwaha said.
There is no guarantee that in a love marriage adjustment issues won't mess up the romance factor.
A young professional, Veta Ratra, who married businessman Sahil after
10 years of courtship, says that post-marriage couples get more time
together but waste it in finding faults with each other.
"I was into a relationship for 10 years before I got married. I am
married for two-and-a-half-years. Marriage is an institution that both
partners have to take care of.
"But when you start living together, you tend to notice even the
minutest things and complain about those things, which are irrelevant.
But if you are content and satisfied with your achievements, marriage
can be the most beautiful thing," Ratra said.
But there is a solution to every problem, says Samir Parikh, a
psychiatrist in Max Healthcare, and suggests that some quality time with
each other can work wonders.
"Couples need a regular boost to their love life in terms of spending
good, intimate and fun moments together. At the same time, one also
needs to appreciate that merely enjoying occasion is not good enough,
and they should try and find time for each other in the chores of
routine life," he said.
But at the same time he cautions not to go out of the way to impress partners as it could have an adverse effect.
"One doesn't need to impress! Do what both of you enjoy doing
together. A gesture is an extension of a relationship. Last but not the
least, some intimate moments could bring freshness to a monotonous
life," he added.
So this Valentine, rekindle romance with little surprises.
"Love is not lost but shelved back after marriage, hence surprises
help in keeping the marriage alive. As one grows, the romance also
matures. In the initial years, giving a rose bud might look highly
romantic but at a different stage it might look kiddish.
"But the things that remain evergreen are that you know your
partner's interest and become a part of it. Get involved, don't do
things just for the heck of it. Your partner can distinguish real from
fake. So, show genuine interest," said marriage counsellor Vikhyat
Singh.
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Thursday, February 9, 2012
How to live to 100 years
http://shine.yahoo.com/healthy-living/live-100-starting-today-155400805.html
Is living to 100 a goal of yours? Even if it's not, these expert tips on living a longer, healthier, and happier life will come in handy.
1. Learn from the pros: A few years back, I did research on centenarians, after deciding that I wanted to live to be over 100 years old (this decision was followed by the decision to live the life I want to live a few years prior to that-so I figured I'd better check out what others are doing). This is what I found: Think more good thoughts, drink enough water regularly, breathe deeply daily, walk regularly, and have friendships.
-Wendy Kay, certified life coach and motivator
RELATED: 7 Symptoms You Should Never Ignore
2. Be in good spirits: The most essential live-to-100 tip, to me, is recognize that you create your perceptions from the inside out. A person's mood in the moment creates his or her experience; a person's experience does not create his or her mood. Those who understand this live a smooth and stress-free life. They do not play victim to external circumstances.
-Garret Kramer, founder and managing partner of Inner Sports, LLC
3. Take anxiety and stress seriously: Don't just tolerate feeling anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed all the time-find a solution. It's important that you take anxiety (and panic attacks) seriously, if for no other reason than the stress they place on the heart. Recent research found that both women under 50 years of age and postmenopausal women who suffer anxiety and panic attacks may have an increased risk of heart disease.
-Trudy Scott, certified nutritionist, president of the National Association of Nutrition Professionals, and author of The Antianxiety Food Solution: How the Foods You Eat Can Help you Calm Your Anxious Mind, Improve Your Mood and End Cravings
4. Drink water: Start your day with 16 to 32 ounces of water. Fill your tank-your body-with water. If you think you're hungry, drink water. We often confuse hunger for thirst. When you learn to recognize your true thirst instinctively, you will begin simultaneously and automatically to reduce your food intake. Water is so beneficial, and if you reach for that instead of any other drink in your lifetime, it will definitely help get you to 100!
-Dian Griesel, co-author of TurboCharged who is 50 years old but has a metabolic age of a 17-year-old according to her Tanita body composition
RELATED: What If You Got Paid to Make Healthy Choices?
5. Stand up straight: People's bones break down over time with bad posture. Exercises like occasionally running in your bare feet and simple resistance training you can do at your desk or at home are incredibly helpful in preserving posture. For example, relieve chest tightness with self myo-fascial release (use a massage ball or foam roll) and stretching, while strengthening the upper-back muscles. My favorite exercise for hunchback posture is upper-back foam rolling, which anyone can do on the living room floor.
Is living to 100 a goal of yours? Even if it's not, these expert tips on living a longer, healthier, and happier life will come in handy.
1. Learn from the pros: A few years back, I did research on centenarians, after deciding that I wanted to live to be over 100 years old (this decision was followed by the decision to live the life I want to live a few years prior to that-so I figured I'd better check out what others are doing). This is what I found: Think more good thoughts, drink enough water regularly, breathe deeply daily, walk regularly, and have friendships.
-Wendy Kay, certified life coach and motivator
RELATED: 7 Symptoms You Should Never Ignore
2. Be in good spirits: The most essential live-to-100 tip, to me, is recognize that you create your perceptions from the inside out. A person's mood in the moment creates his or her experience; a person's experience does not create his or her mood. Those who understand this live a smooth and stress-free life. They do not play victim to external circumstances.
-Garret Kramer, founder and managing partner of Inner Sports, LLC
3. Take anxiety and stress seriously: Don't just tolerate feeling anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed all the time-find a solution. It's important that you take anxiety (and panic attacks) seriously, if for no other reason than the stress they place on the heart. Recent research found that both women under 50 years of age and postmenopausal women who suffer anxiety and panic attacks may have an increased risk of heart disease.
-Trudy Scott, certified nutritionist, president of the National Association of Nutrition Professionals, and author of The Antianxiety Food Solution: How the Foods You Eat Can Help you Calm Your Anxious Mind, Improve Your Mood and End Cravings
4. Drink water: Start your day with 16 to 32 ounces of water. Fill your tank-your body-with water. If you think you're hungry, drink water. We often confuse hunger for thirst. When you learn to recognize your true thirst instinctively, you will begin simultaneously and automatically to reduce your food intake. Water is so beneficial, and if you reach for that instead of any other drink in your lifetime, it will definitely help get you to 100!
-Dian Griesel, co-author of TurboCharged who is 50 years old but has a metabolic age of a 17-year-old according to her Tanita body composition
RELATED: What If You Got Paid to Make Healthy Choices?
5. Stand up straight: People's bones break down over time with bad posture. Exercises like occasionally running in your bare feet and simple resistance training you can do at your desk or at home are incredibly helpful in preserving posture. For example, relieve chest tightness with self myo-fascial release (use a massage ball or foam roll) and stretching, while strengthening the upper-back muscles. My favorite exercise for hunchback posture is upper-back foam rolling, which anyone can do on the living room floor.
Friday, February 3, 2012
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